In terms of learning how to interpret and use filters:
- Practice pattern identification initially in non-challenging situations and for limited periods of time so that concentration can be maintained.
- Be aware that our own preferences will influence our perception of the opposite pattern so we need to identify our own personal patterns first.
- Match and pace the other person’s preferences before attempting to lead them into alternative patterns. This will build rapport and therefore make any transition much easier and ultimately more effective.
And a summary of some key points:
- None of these filters and patterns are intrinsically ‘good or bad’, right or wrong’, ‘positive or negative’. Our view of them will be influenced by our own preferences
- Most of our filters are context dependent.
- Filters are not statements of our identity.
- Increased flexibility in our ability to recognise and work with the extremes of each filter will result in increased influence and effectiveness.